Monday, February 19, 2018

Life...

Hello all! So life has been crazy lately and I have been trying to do my best to deal with it to the best of my ability which means that I am only human and have had many ups and downs over the last couple of months. There is so much to share with you and I'm not sure I will get through all of it in one post. Let me start with the crazy and not so great stuff and then in another post I will focus on all the positive that has come out of it for me.

Towards the end of the year, we had several IEP meetings for Bugaboo in regards to getting him a full time, personal one on one aide which we felt was necessary. It took several months, assessments, several meetings but it was finally approved. It took several more weeks before his aide was hired. I don't know how many of you have had IEP meetings but they can take up to several hours depending on the amount of things that need to be discussed. The assessment required several people to come out and observe Bugaboo in class for two months. It was a long but necessary process. The results have been worth it. He adores his aide and there have been positive results that we can see in class. Our school district is amazing and has been very easy to work with not to mention the support from the staff, his teacher and school psychologists has made things tremendously easier for us when going through this process. We also have had a lot of support from Inland Regional Center, who visits in school, is willing to attend the IEP meetings and send us to conferences in regards to IEPs. This alone sent us on some highs and lows but ultimately turned out alright.

Our Christmas this year was very different, you see Hubby's grandfather unexpectedly passed away on Christmas Eve. Hubby spent as much time at the hospital as he could spending time with his grandfather and being supportive of his family that were shocked, sad and heartbroken. I had to explain to my children to the best of my ability that their great grandfather passed away. It is not easy to explain in child friendly terms and it is hard to expect what their reaction would be. My children happened to be much more understanding because I did have to explain this concept previously when we had to put our cat down unexpectedly due to illness. In January, I found out that my great uncle who is like a grandfather to me had only a few days left to live. Now this man was 96 years old, and ornery as no other. I mean at 90 he was still climbing on the roof to fix things. He has had several close calls through out the years but of course we went immediately to visit him. Unfortunately, this time was much different. When we arrived he was no longer able to speak and had very limited responses. Fortunately for me, I was the one he responded to the most that day. I spent the entire day by his bed side, talking to him, holding his hand and telling him how much I love him. As devastating as it was to have to say goodbye, it was quite cathartic to be able to spend that time with him. During his viewing and funeral, I was my nana's support (although there were several people there for her that day) I had an intense need to hold her hand throughout the viewing and funeral itself. Seeing a military service first hand is quite the moving experience, you see my uncle was in the Navy during WWII. To see all the veterans, the union come that he was in for so long and see the church community come out to show their support, offer their help and pay their condolences was a soul soothing experience.

On top of all of this there was some major stress going on at work. The company I worked for was bought and the new owners came in. At first it was a positive experience and I was excited about everything. Unfortunately that changed with the hiring of a new production manager. I was unable to work with him. I had to do several aspects of his job, I'm unsure if he wasn't sure how to do these things or just unwilling but either way I was doing the job of multiple people which was not easy. Add on to this that I started witnessing some unprofessional behavior towards the men who worked in the shop that I could not tolerate. While I won't go into all the details, it became abundantly clear to me that I needed to make a change. I was consistently stressed, unhappy, angry, frustrated and felt completely unheard. So I took a job offer I received and put in my two weeks notice. Now I am going into a completely different role than what I have ever done before, but I am hoping that this new experience is going to be a good change for me.

Oh and I had the stomach flu the entire first week of the new year ugh!!!!

Life has been crazy, thrown me some massive curve balls over the last few months but it has also shown me some amazing truths. I will tell you all about those truths in my next post.
Have any of you dealt with some massive curve balls? When was life craziest for you? Share your stories with me, I would love to hear them.

Until next time, I am going to keep pushing on in this journey of an everyday mom....

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